Yesterday I received some feedback from my wife regarding an earlier post Patience and the OCD child.
She said that she read it and as she did she cried.
And even as I write this i am tearing up myself.
You see as a parent with as many kids as we do including a set of multiples you sometimes react a little too hastily sometimes regretting maybe raising your voice a little too loud or saying something you shouldnt and feeling guilty as you sit there guiltily as you listen to the scourned child crying in the bedroom.
And i am sure this isnt restricted to a large familites like our it must happen in all families, especially with the stresses we all face.
Sierra isnt a bad child, nor is she ADD, ADHD, OCD or any of those other tags we place unfairly on children (my feelings on that is definately another post).
You can see in her eyes she is a caring child that just does things in hope to get our attention which all children do in different ways.
Rhiannon whos 4 is a drama queen she photo bombs, dances, sings, waves her arms around, and has to be and have the best of everything. She is taller, better at most things, smarter and brighter than most kids her age.
Where for Sierra seems to live in her shadow and can complete in the only way she knows how.
I dont think it's intentional which makes it even harder on us as parents to discipline.
Yesterday it was honey today it was nutella.
Anyway what I am trying to say as a parent that at the end of the day we're not perfect we are trying to do the best we can and finding that little bit extra patence at the end of the day is hard.
She still thinks we are wonderful and loves us to death. Even if dad is the favourite for making her baby chinos. (yes she told me).
And at the end of the day without fail she is told that we love her.